3 Reasons Singles Should Stop Worrying

For how long have you been single ? Are you tired of your family and friends asking you why you don’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend ? I don’t want to sound rude but I will. Fuck all these questions, these doesn’t matter, what matters is how you feel and the feelings and emotions you have being alone.

I have met many successful people that prefer to be alone, single forever that being married to someone that makes their life a nightmare. You need to understand and feel your life like a blessing, whatever you think about you and your life will become a reality. So start having having good thoughts, see yourself a successful person and you will. If you wish to be surrounded by beautiful women or attractive men you need to start thinking and imagine yourself in that picture.  Believe me, it all starts in your mind.

1. Things can change. And they will.

I don’t care if you’ve been single for several decades or several days. It can be easy to get down on yourself over the “odds” finding that perfect partner. Don’t let yourself buy into the ridiculous myths, like “It’s more likely to get abducted by an alien than it is to get married after 40.” Remember, anything and everything is possible. You just need to get out of your own way and start believing that.

  • odds are that you will find a life partner.Marriage was once near-universal in the United States, with more than 90 percent of people marrying. Those rates have dropped steeply in recent years, but trend data can be deceptive. Although the proportion of persons ages 25 to 34 who are married has plummeted, that doesn’t mean that they are alone for life. Rising numbers of Americans are postponing marriage until their 40s or 50s, while others are living with a romantic partner, although they may not legalize the relationship. When this more expansive definition is used, the odds of partnership are in your favor.

2. Have high standards.

Don’t just date someone because you don’t want to be alone. I can’t tell you how many people I know who just “settle” because they hate being alone. If that’s you, why do you hate being alone so much? Don’t you like yourself? You should! You should love being alone, because you’re such a cool person. Remember feel in love with every single part of your body and your life. Stop living in the past and start enjoying the present. This will make your future pretty much brighter.

  • What we look for in a partner changes as we get older, and that’s a good thing.There are many reasons to look forward to middle age. One is that our dating preferences and strategies change. Sure, dating becomes harder, especially for women, as the ratio of available men to women diminishes. And the sad truth is that in our looks-obsessed society, slimmer women and taller men have an easier time on the dating market than heavier women and shorter men. The good news is that the traits we look for change as we age, as we focus more on substance and less on fleeting factors like looks or money.

3. Use this time to learn about yourself.

Often, people use being with others as an escape — an escape from themselves. If you’re with others, then the focus is on them, not you. But how well do you really know yourself? Being single is a precious time that can be used to really get to know and love yourself. So spend the time getting to know you. Discover new things. Work on personal growth.

Please avoid tho chase anyone: And I mean it. Don’t even think about it! If they have to be chased, then they don’t want you.  A wise guy one time told me that Women, Cat and Money have something in common, if you chase them they move away from you. When you have less interest is easier to attract it, I know it sounds weird but it really works. Don’t chase anyone just let the universe and your own life to build a perfect relationship. Everything that really worth it takes time, think about it.

Remember Being single has its rewards, see and feel that being single has its benefits. Sociologists have documented that a growing number of people are single by choice, and relish the opportunity to live as they please. Being single gives people the autonomy to choose where to live, what to watch on TV, and what to eat for dinner. Being single often means we have fewer social obligations and can pursue hobbies and adventures that we can’t if we’re married.

A true fact is that people who stay single for life are often just as happy as peers who marry. They learn to arrange their lives so that they are surrounded by the friends, activities, and physical environments that enhance their daily happiness.

7 Ways to Stop Being Single and Depressed

Most of us the first thinking we get when we finish a relationship or cycles we started to think, “Oh my goodness, I’m going to be alone forever.
What is wrong with me?!” I can tell you that years could past by if you don’t change your mindset and attitude to start seen real changes. The desire for loving attachment is one of the most
basic, enduring, and natural human needs but it needs to start with you and your inner you. You need to love yourself and work on yourself before getting out insecure and doing the wrong moves at your dates.

A lot of people out there feel like they will never find love. They have a nagging feeling that maybe they are “doomed” to be alone forever, or maybe they are too “flawed” to be loved—and that, my friends, is a very painful thing to feel.

You need to believe you are a worthy person. I want you to believe
that you deserve to be loved and to find a romantic partner that will
cherish you. Stop thinking the bad moments or words because this generate bad emotions and will affect everything around you. You need Get rid of the fear of being forever single, because it is
just that: a fear, an emotion that you have about yourself, a belief about your future—not reality.

 So how to stop Being Single ? How can I feel better with myself ?

Here are 7 ways to keep you motivated and will help you to get out of that bad state of mind:

1. Stop Criticizing Yourself

Take an honest look at how often you put yourself down during an
average day. How often do you criticize yourself by telling yourself
things like: I’m so stupid. I’m too fat. I’m too old. I’m ugly. I’m
damaged goods. I always screw things up. I’m an idiot. And so on and so
forth. Rings a bell? Well if you talk to yourself in this way, your mood
will drop, your fears and insecurities will increase, and you are
basically conditioning yourself to believe you are an unworthy person.
Your thoughts have a direct impact on how you feel.

It’s simple. Think good things: feel good. Think bad things: feel bad.

2. Feel Good About Yourself

This cannot be said enough. Imagine you walked into a car dealership
and the salesman told you he had a car for you. He says, “Well, it’s
kinda old and beat up. It still runs, but it’s high on gas, there’s a
few scratches on the paint, and I’m not sure how reliable it is.” Now,
how much would you want to buy that car? You’d be out of there in a New
York second and looking for something better in no time, I’m quite sure.
Why? Because if the person selling you the car doesn’t even believe in
the quality of the car, why should you?

3. Realize You Have Something Valuable to Offer

What are some of your great qualities? Are you an honest,
hard-working, sensitive person? Are you an athletic, artistic,
family-oriented individual? Are a relaxed, easy-going person, or an
organized, efficient person? Not only can you find someone who shares
the same interests and qualities that you hold, but you can also
complement (not complete with!) your future partner by bringing in your
own strengths to the relationship.

4. Change the Way You Think and Feel About the Opposite Sex

So many individuals hold false beliefs about the opposite sex.
Because you’ve had bad experiences, your way to appraise the opposite
sex has changed.

What are the beliefs you hold about the opposite sex? Do you think things like:

  • All men are jerks.
  • Men only want sex.
  • Men fear relationships.
  • Men can’t be faithful.
  • All women are gold diggers.
  • All women are emotional explosions.
  • All the good ones are taken.

Well, that’s simply not true. Men want love and marriage just as
much as women do. There are still plenty of great, fun-loving,
charming, and gentle people out there. If you hold these negative
thoughts about the opposite sex, your fear of staying single forever
multiplies because you are constantly telling yourself that there is no
one for you out there.

5. Change the Way You Think and Feel About Being Single

Have you noticed how being married and having children has become a
measure of personal success and worth? There seems to be tremendous
social pressure to be in a relationship, especially for women. No matter
how successful a woman is, if she’s single, people think she’s either
unhappy or so difficult to get along with that she can’t make a
relationship work. This makes being single look like some sort of
personal failure. You are not a failure. Your personal value is exactly
the same whether you are single or in a relationship.

6. Focus on What You Do Have

Be grateful for friends and family. Your fear of being alone makes
you feel and act desperate (I know—I’ve been there, too). But nobody
wants to fill the position of the interchangeable boyfriend or
girlfriend. People want to know you love them for who they are, and that
you don’t just need someone to take care of you. Be grateful for all
the beautiful things that you do have. Focusing on the one thing that is
missing from your life makes you miss the larger picture: You have tons
of great things going for you already!

7. Schedule Activities Every Week and Enjoy Yourself

Make the most of your time alone and enjoy yourself. Being in a
relationship leaves less time for hanging out with friends, reading
books, scheduling activities that are just for you (no matter how great
your new boyfriend is, I doubt he’ll want to go have bikini wax with
you). See this as a relational-vacation time! Go out there and have some
fun. By filling your life with activities, you won’t focus on the
“emptiness” as much. Instead, you’ll see that you have a rich life, and
you’ll feel happier. Being happier will make you an instant date-magnet!
People want to be around happy people. Confidence is the most
attractive outfit.